Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Wg.Cdr.KalyanSundaram - My Darling!




This post has been due for a while, I don't know if it was a coincidence, an indication or a premonition of sorts. A week before his demise(05th February, 2008) I wanted to write a blog post on him, hoping he'd read my blog that way, at least. I wanted to gift him something really nice, for reasons unknown to me. Lil did I know that his end was near and that a few days down the line, I'd have to face and handle the bitter truth of life.:-(

I wanted to write this post about one of the few men:
- I loved and will always love
- Who made a difference in and to my life(whose presence and even name always brought a smile on my face.I considered him an idol)
- I adored and adored me

And this man is Wg.Cdr. KalyanSundaram(was awarded the VSM by the IAF) alias Ramani alias Speedy(as he was known in the Indian Air Force), my Rthatha(my favorite granduncle). I knew this would be an instance that would be very hard to handle but I still was not prepared and did not expect it to happen the way it did. His demise was unexpected and thus a shock and blow to the family and friends, yet beautiful.

He was LIVELY as can be.He electrified the place, no matter where, what and who were there. Untidy and shabby that he was, yet lovable and adorable:-). HOSPITALITY was ALWAYS AT IT's BEST at his home, like no others!(Kudos to R, Manjamma, Sudhapini and Bhushanmama). They ALWAYS ROCKED!

Was he intelligent or what? He was an Engineer(mechanical/aeronautical) by profession but not a trained Computer/Software Engineer but ask him anything about the comp(absolutely any issue - a technical snag, the internet, any kind of software, the i-pod and system compatibility, etc) and bingo - he had the answer! As he used to say my PC goes kaput.

Who will:
- I now ask for all the comp related help?:-(
- now fix me a drink(Bloody Mary)?
- tell me to run away and ask him for tickets when I do so?
- address me as "ai you so-and-so"?
- ping me on MSN at 8PM while I am at work and repeatedly tell me to leave for home, while I don't stop telling him that my office cab does not leave for home before 9PM?
- burn all those Dean Martin and Harry Belafonte songs for me?
- cook delicacies for me?
- buy me Tirnalvelli halwa?
- I listen to chant the VisnhuSahasranamam?

From Sudoku, Crossword, Detanators, to the engine of a Microlite he'd solve em all in a jiffy.

Did he know to live life to the fullest or what - be it while in the Indian Air Force or otherwise? People at work, IISc, family, friends and even the kids(special children) at his wife's school(Swayamkrushi) loved and adored him.

He lived a beautiful life on his terms and died an even beautiful death on his bed at his home in his sleep(as he desired). He went away with such dignity, with no pain/illness and trouble to anyone.

Lord give all of us whom he has left behind the strength to accept his LOSS(it's still not sinking in).

MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE! Love you ALWAYS and MISS YOU like CRAZY Rthatha.

9 comments:

fitnessfreak said...

life is indeed unpredictable. thats why they say when you love someone just tell them, otherwise it may be too late. Am sure ur r thata is watching you from wherever he is....and his words will always echo in your ears.

Gopika said...

His loss has left a void in our lives but we must strive to live life to the fullest - the way he would have wanted us to.

popsie said...

Yes, very true we must strive to live life to the fullest like him and they way he would have wanted us to. Like Bhushanmama said, he always took us by surprise and did this time too!:-(

Castelleno ~~ said...

Very touchy !!
They say when you write from your soul, it becomes a masterpiece.. Well, I don't know about masterpiece, but this tribute is surely a sensitive memory. I am sure HIS soul will rest in peace forever. Life goes on, that's the hard fact.. and we gotta live with it :( ...

I wish you to be smiling forever :-)

malathimohan00 said...

Childhood neighbour and playmate, Maths teacher, who gave me quite a few knocks on my head for inattentiveness, 'Avakai Abbai' as My Ammamma named him; He also drove us all to nuts with his driving lessons and what not. Part of our family always, and he strenghened it by marrying Manju. A small para won't do, Do you need a chapter or a book about Ramani? Just ask. Malathi

Anonymous said...

What a fantastic guy dear Ramani is!
I was thinking as to what dear
Ramani would say to us if we dream of him.
"Grieve not, not speak of me with tears, but laugh and talk of me as if I were beside you all there. I have just slipped away into the next room"
Perhaps from an opening in the sky, through which our beloved Ramani shines down to let us know he is happy.
With fond memories of him, I wish his soul rests in peace.--Appadu

malathy said...

What a fantastic guy dear Ramani is!

I was thinking as to what dear Ramani would say to us
if we dream of him.
"Grieve not, not speak of me with tears, but laugh and
talk of me as if I were beside you all there. I have
just slipped away into the next room"

Perhaps from an opening in the sky, through which our
beloved Ramani shines down to let us know he is happy.
With fond memories of him, I wish his soul rests in
peace.
Appadu
Appadu sent it to me and It's coming under my name, but it's his words...Malathi

Amritha said...

hey..catchin up on blogs after a while...im sorry for ur loss! :(

Anonymous said...

trying as usual to make contact was shocked to hear of this occurance

my heartfelt feelings to bushan and mrs kalyanasundaram

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