On love and Obligation...

Oblige is to favor, love is to set free
Obligation and love never cross paths.
I love thee, thus say not 'to oblige'!

Cougar

"The new breed of single, older woman - confident, sophisticated, desirable and sexy, she knows exactly what she wants.What she wants is younger men and lots of great sex.What she doesn't want is children, cohabitation or commitment."
- Valerie Gibson

How far does what Valerie Gibson says true? Should we generalize and judge? I don't think it is right to do so(I have not read the book yet and thus to make a comment is not appropriate at this point in time).

Convenience? Commitment? Children? - all of these form part of any serious relation, no matter the differences.

What is the age difference? - This makes a big difference, so I believe. The larger the age difference the greater the risk!!!

Older women dating younger men, a relationship pairing that is considered unconventional - even taboo - by society.

Why is it considered taboo by society?

- The relation could lead to physical/sexual problems when you hit middle age (Is this a myth? - doctors say: you can do it if you have it, till the day you die. It has no physiological consequence.)

- The woman is not treated as a child and is expected to behave as a mature adult as against the Indian belief system - where the man is older than the woman, in order to treat her as a child and take care of her.

Different people have different views, thoughts and believes - which they are entitled to. It happens either by chance or is a conscious decision by the two individuals involved. If the individuals concerned are mature, conscious about the fact and understand what it takes to be there, it is absolutely fine.

Which relation, irrespective of age, caste, creed, nationality, arranged or otherwise is a guaranteed relation for life? Relations are full of understanding and compromises - as long as it is two way/mutual, that's what matters.

Life is a gamble and so is a relation/marriage - make your choice(it ain't easy though)!

Relationships - are they complex or what?

Why are relationships so complex?Or do we make em so?Not just for the two individuals involved but for people surrounding them....

Humans are the most complex animals...Humans are the most selfish animals.....They vary in size and types....Some shrewd n some smart...some innocent n sweet...

The old belief goes this way that: OPPOSITES ATTRACT!!!This seems to be rather true, whether it be with respect to looks,character,nature...the list can go on...

Why do certain kind of syndromes or complexes exist within individuals that make them behave in a certain manner?

Some of us are dumb while others are extra shrewd?why don't the dumb and innocent recognise the shrewd n cunning sorts?why is it so delicate for the best of friends to share with each other frankly what they think about the friend's partner?

Is diplomacy so important???? I don't understand......

Why is the relation between two friends(be it a gurl & a guy or two people of the same sex) so delicate when it comes to expressing their opinion about the third person involved in one of their lives? It's after all a genuine concern........

Why is the human race so complicated? Why aren't people able to see the true side of the other? Do we over react or exaggerate? Are we wrong at judging others?Is it right to judge another individual? It's natural to do so, though.

Why do people want to play it safe all the time? Why are some people (more often than not women) conniving? What is the thrill that people get on taking others for a ride and playing with their emotions? Yes, variety is the spice of life.....but not at the expense of another human - after all!!!

The list of questions are endless...and I am seeking answers for all of them....will I ever find them is what I hope and wonder.......