Cougar

"The new breed of single, older woman - confident, sophisticated, desirable and sexy, she knows exactly what she wants.What she wants is younger men and lots of great sex.What she doesn't want is children, cohabitation or commitment."
- Valerie Gibson

How far does what Valerie Gibson says true? Should we generalize and judge? I don't think it is right to do so(I have not read the book yet and thus to make a comment is not appropriate at this point in time).

Convenience? Commitment? Children? - all of these form part of any serious relation, no matter the differences.

What is the age difference? - This makes a big difference, so I believe. The larger the age difference the greater the risk!!!

Older women dating younger men, a relationship pairing that is considered unconventional - even taboo - by society.

Why is it considered taboo by society?

- The relation could lead to physical/sexual problems when you hit middle age (Is this a myth? - doctors say: you can do it if you have it, till the day you die. It has no physiological consequence.)

- The woman is not treated as a child and is expected to behave as a mature adult as against the Indian belief system - where the man is older than the woman, in order to treat her as a child and take care of her.

Different people have different views, thoughts and believes - which they are entitled to. It happens either by chance or is a conscious decision by the two individuals involved. If the individuals concerned are mature, conscious about the fact and understand what it takes to be there, it is absolutely fine.

Which relation, irrespective of age, caste, creed, nationality, arranged or otherwise is a guaranteed relation for life? Relations are full of understanding and compromises - as long as it is two way/mutual, that's what matters.

Life is a gamble and so is a relation/marriage - make your choice(it ain't easy though)!

Why???

Why do people not leave you alone?
Why are they always telling you what to do and what not to do?
Why are they always playing the blame game?
Why do they love to criticize and what do they achieve doing so?
Why do they derive happiness by paining others?
Why do such people get a kick out of it?
Why don't they learn to respect every human as each of us is a grown up?
Why don't they respect an individual's choice and views(they need not agree with the individual)?
Why is it so easy to gossip, criticize and blame others?
Why do they think because they are older in age they can throw their weight around?
Why do they become control freaks and control others lives?
Why do they think they are 'THE ALL AND END ALL'?

Get a life people(bunch of losers)!!!
Get a hold over your lives!
Look within - introspect!

I do boil my blood over such people,instances and situations(it is but natural and human) but then when I calm down I realize IT'S JUST NOT WORTH IT or rather THEY ARE JUST NOT WORTH MY TIME AND ENERGY. Ignore them and move ahead in life. We need to co-exist in society and thus we tolerate such losers but for HOW LONG and WHY?

Handle this by nodding in agreement to all they say,avoid arguments and continue to do what you want and believe in unless you think the person and what he/she is saying really matters and makes sense. Let them make you out to be a dud or an arrogant fool - that's not your problem.

Pass on the message to them in a very discrete and diplomatic manner(at the right time) without creating disturbing situations and if they are as SMART as they claim to be, they will get the message!!! If they don't understand, then you know HOW SMART THEY ACTUALLY ARE!!! - lol :-)

Introspection

Who am I? Where do I come from? What am I here for? How do I contribute to humanity? What is my life worth?,etc - introspection or self-reflection, is something that almost all of us do at some stage in our lives. Is this a sign of growing up, the psyche or a combination of the two?

Do we find solutions to our questions or is procrastination a simpler and convenient choice? Does questioning help man evolve and realize? Does this phase of 'questioning oneself' repeat itself? It sure does, it is a logical and natural process,the answers to some of the questions do change with time, though.

Introspect and discover thy unknown self!!!

Destiny's Bird!!!

I wanna flee and see what it is like in the midst of the sea
Where it is me alone and destiny with open hands welcome me!!

I wanna flee and see what it is like in the midst of the sea
Where I can feel the wind in my face and see the other faces of my destiny!!!

Dogs and Cats!!!

Are these animals cute and intelligent or what? I have heard of several stories on Animal Planet about how dogs help patients improve on various different health conditons. Dogs are loyal and cute. As they say DOGS are truly MAN'S BEST FRIEND!!! Cats are not just intelligent but very shrewd too.

They are apparently very unlike the other in their charecteristics - ABSOLUTE OPPOSITES!!!

Studying these most domesticated animals can be quite a pleasure and a great experience. Seeing them co-exist and live in harmony gives immense happiness to a dog/cat lover.

Read this: Cat becomes bus regular in Britain

How smart is that?

Look at them wrestle/play with each other!!!




Wonder how cats are different from dogs? View this video and you'll know :-)




Instead of domesticating these lovable creatures man wants to kill them just because of one odd incident. Figure out a way to deal with the problem of growing numbers of strays in a civilized manner, that is HUMAN. Killing them ruthlessly is not a SOLUTION. This is a cause for serious CONCERN!

Vaccinate them and if they need to be put to sleep do so only as a last resort and not by injecting chemicals and being inhuman.

Adopt them, love them and they will love you like no one else - atleast the dogs!!!

Bless the animals and may those who harm them die a death of misery!!!

Nostalgic Memories - The Then Chennai Hangout Spots!!!

I so miss the good old days and live life with the beautiful memories!!!(I hang on to those memories and refuse to let go) Boy!! Will those days ever come back? I'd love to re-live them.

Re-visitng the city(Chennai), I grew up in brought back memories of those precious moments I spent with my best pals - who no more are around in the city or the country. How much time we used to spend at the Beach(Elliots),the weirdest of excuse and we'd scoot on our new bikes to the beach. Walk up and down the ramp like crazy adolescents......guys giving gurls the looks and vice versa- site adikardhu as it is called.

Alsa Mall at Egmore(namma pettai),the then Mall at Madras - one of the first of it's kind. There was nothin to beat Spencer's though....Clubbing and pubbing at places like HFO,EC41, Zara and Bike n Barrel!!! - all chup chupke - was it fun or what!?

Fruit Shop,Gallopin Gooseberries, Foodcourt, Qwiky's, Barista, Cozee at Bessi(namma pettai again) and the list goes on.....am I missing some place?

Gone are those days....the spots have changed, the place is crowded and I have outgrown those crazy acts but I still do miss those times...and now the city looks a stranger to me - with not a soul I know.......but good Old Madras remains HOT with those wide roads...and that language(the colloquial) I loooooooooooove:-).

Nalla Madras,Namma Madras - Madras Namma Madras! :-)

Phase - This will also pass!!!

Every phase(good, bad, difficult) in life is something that will pass and is temporary.

We know that but do we realise the same? Are we conscious of the fact - that it is just a phase, that will pass? Whether we like it or not we go through different phases in life and learn a lot out of each phase with or without realizing that we are constantly learning.

Like Practice makes a man Perfect, Patience makes a man sail through any and every phase of life!!!

To Do Or Not To Do?? - Is The Question

Do I study further or not?
Do I study in India or not?
Do I consider studying abroad or not?
Do I consider a change in job or not?
Do I consider a break or not?
Do I.....?

Phew!!! The list goes on and alas, I continue to ask myself the same question and wonder...'what to do and what not to do'!!!

The question - 'To do or not to do?' - is it a choice or confusion or is it a choice that leads to confusion?

I have no clue whatsoever, I wish I figure the answers to these questions asap.

Bless me!!!

Dreams Unlimited!!!

Dreams – is it just a six letter word, mysterious, fascinating or a reflection in to the future – ever thought about this? Dreams can be interpreted, they say.

What are dreams? The Webster’s dictionary defines a dream as a:
“Sequence of sensations, images, thoughts, etc., passing through a sleeping person's mind"

Dreams are unique and relate to your personal life and experiences. Dreams apparently unify the body, mind and spirit. The world of dreams is quite unbelievable and fascinating. The kinds of dreams are multiple, they range from daydream, lucid,nightmares,chase, theory/exam, flying, etc. Every human dreams, some of us remember them and some of us don’t. Dreams vary in theme, duration, symbols and even interpretation.

Freud believed and said that every thought and action of a human is motivated by our conscious. Adler thought it is important to learn from our dreams and incorporate them in our waking life. Adler differed from Freud on the note that dreams are ruled by the unconscious mind. He thought that the strive for perfection and need for control is what causes us to do the things we do. Adler did not believe that the conscious and unconscious functioned against each other.

Well different theorists had different perspectives and belonged to different schools of thought!!!

Check the Dream dictionary out.

Dreams are not just by themselves interesting, fascinating, entertaining and satisfying but learning and reading about them is all the more amazing.

Don’t you think so?! At least I do.

Non-vegetarianism – Individual choice and cruelty to animals!!!

Survival of mankind – does it equate to ‘pet (stomach) pooja’?! All of us ‘live to eat’ or ‘eat to live’??? Why are us human’s sooooooooo insensitive? Do we need to kill another life to survive? Making your stomach a graveyard – does that feel good?

Well the counter question a non-vegetarian tends to pose – ‘Is it fine to kill plants?, Are they not living beings?’ Well the accepted argument is that ‘plants don't have a central nervous system like animals do, therefore no pain is felt’. There are different angles to this perspective too.

Not just cruelty to animals but do non-vegetarians realize that they are harming their health in the process? As per a study - Intelligent children are more likely to become vegetarians later in life and vegetarianism has been linked to heart health.

Issues like: ‘Are veggie women four times better protected from breast-cancer than non-veggie counterparts?’ were addressed in the Veg Food Expo that happened at Chennai this January.

It undoubtedly is an individual choice that has been debated on for generations and will continue…. but are we so heartless? Think about the environment, other living beings, try being empathetic and then take a call – fair enough??!!